The Marie Kondo of Gender: Jacob Tobia, Closets
The Marie Kondo of Gender: Jacob Tobia

None of us are meant to be cookie cutter and Jacob Tobia wants to make sure you know it. The writer, producer, and author, has come to their glam meets cow-girl meets urban street style by way of growing up exploring their gender creativity in a binary world that wanted them conform. Giving themselves permission to cherry pick their gender-style preferences, like not shaving their body hair and wearing heels, has birthed the idea that at our essence we are each multifaceted selves and Jacob wants that brilliance to shine for everyone! “I'm the Marie Kondo of gender. I want to walk through everybody's metaphorical gender house and be like, ‘Hold all these different aspects of your identity to your chest, decide if they spark joy for you. If they spark joy, I'll teach you how to fold them and keep them, store them nicely, honor them and display them how you want. And if they don't spark joy, get rid of it.’” For Jacob’s entire life and style story, listen to their episode of our podcast, What’s Underneath, on iTunes (, Spotify ( or Stitcher ( If these stories are transformative on your own journey towards acceptance, please consider becoming a member of StyleLikeU on Patreon so that we can build a world where everyone feels comfortable and safe in their skin. To join the movement, head over to And if you know anyone who would be empowered by this story, please share and be a part of spreading the message that true style is the result of radical self-acceptance. FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: Patreon: Newsletter: Instagram: Facebook: iTunes: Spotify: Stitcher:

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