Rog & Bee Walker
"Intimacy is more than a thrill." Rog Walker

Our #sexualhealing month isn't about favoring one perspective over another. That being said, in a culture where hooking up is almost perfunctory, we can't help but be swept away with how Rog and Bee demonstrate that old-fashioned commitment is just as badass and pioneering as 21st-century sexual liberation.

Theirs is a Tumblr love story - that's what Bee, in her sugary American/Amish style, has named her romance with her husband and fellow photographer Rog. After meeting Bee at an Apple store event, Rog proposed on his knees and said, "I saw you for the first time last year and now I know that I want to see you every day for the rest of my life.  Will you marry me?" He is a modern day Romeo through and through, who believes as much in the meaning of sticking to one person as he does in pursuing his artistic passions and to cutting off his crisp button downs or re-dying old-school tasseled loafers instead of throwing them out. Rog would make the most cynical among us melt all their notions that monogamous traditions, like a rewarding marriage, are obsolete.

Realizing that being alone was preferable to filling her life with underwhelming, Girls-style boyfriends is what broke Bee free of what she came to see as the Sex and the City legacy of ridiculing sexually devoted relationships. Once the scare quotes around any idea of a committed, faithful relationship were dropped, Rog appeared. "I always thought I'd have to subversively get a traditional relationship, like live with someone for a long time, not get married, or not necessarily have this stable man in my life," she recalls. Such resignation, though, proved, unnecessary. With Rog, Bee continues to find the sublime simplicity of her being. The two are focused on, as they say, baking bread, not the crumbs. As for her monastic-meets-preppie wardrobe, Bee declares:  "I want to get to the cleanest, fundamental "flatline" of who I am and then meet people as a person rather than as a style or an image."

The two complement each other in nearly everything, from colored jeans and fixations with details (like layering socks) to bringing their opposing artistic eyes together for photography projects, such as the book  Visual Insights: Outer Borough, which they shot, printed, and hand-bound themselves. They both owe their confidence that sharing a life together is where it's at to their parents, who are all still married. "A lot of us have been paralyzed by too many options," Bee laments. "Everything seems to be a transaction or a commodity, but at the end of the day I don't think anybody realizes what's being given up." As Rog adds, "You can't have it all and give nothing. Sexual experience has been extremely cheapened. It's been demoted to a thrill. It's not satisfying, it doesn't last long -- it's a vapor. Intimacy is more than a thrill. There's a thrill in it, because we have fun. But it's a committed thrill, not an empty one."

xo Elisa & Lily

Video Edited by Shane O'Neill

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  • Jolie Brown

    I'm in love with you guys! I love to see dedicated couples, it inspires my heart.

  • Mynka Mirnoff

    This is beautiful.

  • Artistically presented. They are strong individually and even better together.

  • mlle p

    Thanks for showing this beautiful, devoted couple - great story.

  • Stylista

    I feel like I know this couple...which is a good thing :-)...

  • India Olowokande Ame'ye

    i love brilliant couples. stylin' amazingly!

  • Amber

    So inspiring,

  • Sing

    Beautiful. Love to see a young couple that still believe in marriage.

  • Syd

    inspiring.

  • Miss Anne

    Amazing... you are proof that there is real love out there. Thank you for sharing.

  • Antoinette

    This gave me hope. Thank you for sharing this beautiful tale.

  • neph

    Such beauty, style and wisdom. What a brilliant couple! Thanks for this.

  • belle

    Wow. Total inspiration for young lovers.

  • Charisma Eclectic Earrings

    Peace....i had been craving a new lovestory. I needed something indie, refreshing & to the left. I wanted a sequel to Medicine for Melancholy... this story and vid gave me those things &more!

  • Simone

    It literally brought tears to my eyes to see the conviction and satisfaction that you two have with one another...theres hope for us all!!

  • Frédérique Leininger

    You are amazing guys! By the way, what is this amazing vintage camera? Please tell me where I could find this amazing treasure! :))) Thank youuu

  • Momoh Seysean Folz

    lovely

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